Writing your wedding vows can be a daunting task, but it’s not quite as hard as it looks. This is an incredible and meaningful way to personalize your wedding ceremony. It’s a chance to tell your story and share some intimate insight into what makes your relationship tick. It can be challenging to bare your heart to your fiancé in front of your family and friends. If you’re struggling to come up with the right words, read on for tips that will help you get through writing your wedding vows.
Talk to your partner: It’s important to be on the same page when it comes to your vows. How long do you want them to be? Do you want something more sentimental, romantic or tear-inducing? It is not exactly a fairytale wedding when your vows make everyone shed a tear while the groom is making them roll on the floor laughing. You also don’t want to go on and on for 20 minutes when he only has two sentences to read. There are some ground rules you need to establish and follow in ensuring your vows are consistent in tone, message, and length.
Keep it simple: Vows are meant to be personal and sweet, but no one wants you to go into unnecessary details about your love life. Discussing how and where you met, fell in love and became a couple is OK (unless it involves a very raunchy backstory), but try not to expose too much of your personal life in front of close family and friends.
Say the obvious: Many couples get so caught up in discussing what they think the other one wants to hear that they forget the most important words of all: ‘I love you’ and ‘Thank you for being with me.’ You’re celebrating your love and decision to live the rest of your lives together – what better time to say those words than now?
There is room for others: There’s no harm in mentioning someone else in your wedding vows. A family member, a close friend, even a stranger who has taught you something about love, compassion, forgiveness, closeness, care, and understanding. How are you the person today because of this experience? What has it given you and what are you offering your partner now as a result of it?
Even if you’re not a ‘words’ person, there are plenty of books, movies and wedding sites to get inspiration from. But steer clear of pompous, lengthy declarations of your love as they sound insincere. When it comes to wedding vows you can never go wrong if you keep them short and simple, and write from the heart.
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